親愛的呱友們：

Helping your child master these simple rules of etiquette will get him noticed -- for all the right reasons.

By David Lowry, Ph.D. from Parents Magazine

幫助你的孩子學(xué)會(huì)這些簡(jiǎn)單的禮儀規(guī)則能讓他意識(shí)到, 這些都是有必要的,。

大衛(wèi)?勞里 博士 文 摘自《家長(zhǎng)》

Your child's rude 'tude isn't always intentional. Sometimes kids just don't realize it's impolite to interrupt, pick their nose, or loudly observe that the lady walking in front of them has a large behind.

And in the hustle and bustle of daily life, busy moms and dads don't always have the time to focus on etiquette. But if you reinforce these 25 must-do manners, you'll raise a polite, kind, well-liked child.

孩子的魯莽有時(shí)不是故意的，他們只是沒有意識(shí)到這是不禮貌的行為,，比如：打斷別人說話,，在公共場(chǎng)所挖鼻孔或者大聲嚷嚷前面女士的屁股有多大。

現(xiàn)代生活太喧囂,，忙碌的爸爸媽媽們可能沒有很多時(shí)間教孩子禮儀,。但是只要你花些時(shí)間教會(huì)孩子以下25個(gè)禮貌行為，你將會(huì)培養(yǎng)出一個(gè)禮貌,，和善,，受歡迎的孩子。

When asking for something, say 'Please.' 向別人要東西的時(shí)候,，說“請(qǐng)”,。

When receiving something, say 'Thank you.' 得到別人給的東西時(shí),，說“謝謝”。

Manners & Responsibility: 3 Manners All Kids Should Know

Do not interrupt grown-ups who are speaking with each other unless there is an emergency. They will notice you and respond when they are finished talking.

大人交談的時(shí)候不要隨隨便便插嘴,，除非有緊急的事情,。大人們會(huì)注意到你，談話結(jié)束后自然會(huì)理你,。

If you do need to get somebody's attention right away, the phrase 'excuse me' is the most polite way for you to enter the conversation.

如果你需要?jiǎng)e人馬上注意到你,，說一句“不好意思，打擾一下”是最有禮貌的,。

When you have any doubt about doing something, ask permission first. It can save you from many hours of grief later.

如果你對(duì)要做的事情有疑問,，那就事先征得同意，這樣免得事后后悔,。

Do not comment on other people's physical characteristics unless, of course, it's to compliment them, which is always welcome.

不要評(píng)論別人的外貌身材,，當(dāng)然，如果是優(yōu)點(diǎn)的話,，別人還是很樂意聽到你的贊賞的,。

When people ask you how you are, tell them and then ask them how they are.

別人問你“你怎么樣啊,？”,，如實(shí)地告訴他們，并問問他們“你怎么樣??？”。

When you have spent time at your friend's house, remember to thank his or her parents for having you over and for the good time you had.

在朋友家玩,，記得感謝他/她的父母,，謝謝他們邀請(qǐng)你去玩，告訴他們你玩得很開心,。

Knock on closed doors -- and wait to see if there's a response -- before entering.

如果門關(guān)著,，進(jìn)去之前記得敲門——等等看是不是有人應(yīng)門。

When you make a phone call, introduce yourself first and then ask if you can speak with the person you are calling.

打電話的時(shí)候,，先自我介紹,，然后問對(duì)方自己要找的人在不在。

Be appreciative and say 'thank you' for any gift you receive. In the age of e-mail, a handwritten thank-you note can have a powerful effect.

收到禮物之后要表達(dá)感謝,，說“謝謝你”,。在互聯(lián)網(wǎng)時(shí)代，手寫的感謝信是會(huì)讓人非常有誠(chéng)意,！

Never use foul language in front of adults. Grown-ups already know all those words, and they find them boring and unpleasant.

千萬不要在大人面前說粗話,，大人們都聽得懂,，他們會(huì)感到無聊和不愉快,。

Don't call people mean names.

不要給別人起綽號(hào),。

Do not make fun of anyone for any reason. Teasing shows others you are weak, and ganging up on someone else is cruel.

不要以任何理由捉弄?jiǎng)e人。戲弄?jiǎng)e人只能說明你很遜,，聯(lián)合其他人欺負(fù)別人更可惡,。

Even if a play or an assembly is boring, sit through it quietly and pretend that you are interested. The performers and presenters are doing their best.

即使你看的劇或者參加的集會(huì)再無聊，也應(yīng)該安靜地坐著,，假裝感興趣,。因?yàn)檠輪T們盡了他們最大的努力，你需要尊重他們的勞動(dòng),。

If you bump into somebody, immediately say 'Excuse me.'

如果你不小心撞到了別人,，馬上說“對(duì)不起”或者“不好意思”。

Cover your mouth when you cough or sneeze, and don't pick your nose in public.

打噴嚏或者咳嗽的時(shí)候捂住嘴巴,，在公共場(chǎng)所不要挖鼻孔,。

As you walk through a door, look to see if you can hold it open for someone else.

進(jìn)門出門的時(shí)候，看看周圍是不是有其他人進(jìn)出,，為他們開一會(huì)兒門只是舉手之勞,。

If you come across a parent, a teacher, or a neighbor working on something, ask if you can help. If they say 'yes,' do so -- you may learn something new.

如果你碰巧看到爸爸、媽媽,、老師或者鄰居在忙著做什么,，問問他們是不是需要你的幫助。如果需要,，就搭把手——也許你能學(xué)到些新東西,。

When an adult asks you for a favor, do it without grumbling and with a smile.

有大人請(qǐng)你幫個(gè)忙，如果你答應(yīng)了就不要發(fā)牢騷,，面帶微笑地做完,。

When someone helps you, say 'thank you.' That person will likely want to help you again. This is especially true with teachers!

別人幫助了你，記得說“謝謝你”,。這樣別人會(huì)愿意再次幫助你,，特別是老師。

Use eating utensils properly. If you are unsure how to do so, ask your parents to teach you or watch what adults do.

正確使用餐具,，如果你不確定該怎么用,，可以請(qǐng)爸爸媽媽教你，或者看大人們?cè)趺词褂谩?/p>

Don't reach for things at the table; ask to have them passed.

如果桌上的食物太遠(yuǎn)夠不到,，還是讓別人幫忙遞給你或者夾給你吧,。

Originally published in the March 2011 issue ofParents magazine.

原文刊于《家長(zhǎng)》雜志2011年3月刊