2014年5月法國梅村

當(dāng)我生氣時(shí)，我要如何釋放我的怒氣,？

當(dāng)我生氣時(shí),，

When I am angry,

我要如何釋放我的怒氣,？

how do I let my anger out?

要如何釋放我的怒氣,？

How to let my anger out?

你覺得你的怒氣是從外面來的,，跑進(jìn)去了,，

Do you think that your anger has come

from the outside, went in,

而現(xiàn)在你要把它釋放出來,？

and now you want to let it out again?

你確定怒氣是從外面來的嗎,？

Are you sure that the anger is coming

from the outside?

那是一個(gè)反問題。

That is a counter question.

（眾笑）(Laughter)

在梅村,，我們學(xué)習(xí)

In Plum Village, we learn

如何處理我們的怒氣,，

how to deal with our anger,

如何照顧好我們的怒氣。

how to take care of our anger.

怒氣不是好的,。

Anger is not something pleasant.

它就像是淤泥,。

It is like the mud.

但是沒有了淤泥，

But without the mud,

我們不可以種植荷花,。

we cannot grow lotus flowers.

所以怎么說淤泥是有用的...

So the mud is useful, somehow...

所以你的怒氣怎么說是有用的,。

so your anger is useful, somehow.

所以，你或許不用把它釋放出來,。

So, maybe you should not let it out.

有不應(yīng)該丟掉它,。

You should not throw it away.

如果你知道怎么樣好好地善用

If you know how to make good use

你的怒氣，

of your anger,

你就能滋養(yǎng)荷花般的和平、

you can grow the lotus of peace,

愉悅,、原諒,。

of joy, of forgiveness.

這是在美村一個(gè)很深懊的教誨。

This is a very deep teaching

in Plum Village.

我們一直在學(xué)習(xí)這個(gè),。

We have been learning about this.

怒氣升起時(shí),，

Anger comes 'up' --

不是從外在，而是從內(nèi)在,。

not from the outside,

but from inside.

因?yàn)槲覀儾涣私猓?/p>

Because we do not understand,

那就是為什么我們不能去愛,。

that is why we cannot love.

而如果我們諦觀，

And, if we look deeply,

如果我們深入聆聽,，

if we listen deeply,

我們就會(huì)明白了,。

we'll be able to understand.

而當(dāng)我們明白了，

And, when we understand,

有愛的存在,。

there is love.

而當(dāng)有了愛,，

And when there is love,

怒氣就會(huì)自我轉(zhuǎn)化,。

anger just transforms itself.

你不用拿怒氣

You don't have to take anger

去丟掉,。

and throw it away.

反而，你是可以運(yùn)用怒氣的,。

In fact, anger is something

that you can use.

而如果你用理解,、慈悲

And, if you hold that anger

來捧著那怒氣，

in understanding, in compassion,

那怒氣就會(huì)變成像愛一般...

then, anger becomes something

like love...

像慈悲,。

like compassion.

我給你舉個(gè)例子,。

I will give you an example.

有個(gè)人，今天早上,，

The other fellow, this morning,

對你說了些不好聽的話,。

said something unkind to you.

他對你做了或者說了不好的東西，

He did something or he said something

unkind to you,

而你受苦,。

and you suffered.

而怒氣開始升起來,。

And, anger is coming up.

平常，

And, usually,

如果你不是一個(gè)好的修習(xí)者,，

if you are not good practitioner,

你就會(huì)想打那個(gè)男孩或女孩一拳,，

you want to give that boy

or that girl a punch,

來處罰他或她。

to punish him or her.

而那就是我們「內(nèi)心」的怒氣,。

And that is anger 'in' us.

這種怒氣就像是污泥

And that anger is a kind of mud

抹污了所有的東西,。

to smear everything.

所以我們要覺知，

So, we need to be aware that

我們得掌控那怒氣的淤泥,，

we have to control that mud of anger

不要讓淤泥抹污我們

and do not let the mud to smear us

和對方,。

and the other person.

所以，你可以吸氣，

So, you might like to breathe in,

冷靜地,、有覺知地

calmly, mindfully,

看著那個(gè)男孩或者女孩,。

and look at that boy or girl.

而你在他或她的身上

And, what do you see

會(huì)看到什么呢？

in him or in her?

你會(huì)看到他的自心中有著暴力,。

You see that there is a violence in him.

他有憤怒,、痛苦

There is anger, suffering in him

或者是她。

or in her.

如果那個(gè)男孩或女孩是快樂的,，

If that boy or girl is happy,

他或她就不會(huì)說

he or she would not have said something

那么難聽的話了,。

mean like that.

他或她就不會(huì)做出那么暴力的事情來了。

He or she wouldn't have done

something violent like that.

但是,，他自心中沒有快樂,。

But, he does not have the happiness in him.

那就是為什么他受苦。

That is why he suffers.

而當(dāng)他那么地受苦,，

And, when he suffers like that,

他是想要把他的痛苦釋放出來,，

he wants to get his suffering out,

所以他才會(huì)對你說了那么難聽的話，

by saying something mean to you,

或?qū)δ阕隽四敲床缓玫氖聛怼?/p>

or doing something unkind to you.

而他以為那么做,，

And, he thinks that, by doing so,

他就可以減輕痛苦,。

he will suffer less.

那不是很聰明的做法。

That is not very intelligent.

所以當(dāng)你看著他,，你就會(huì)看見

So, when you look and you see that

那個(gè)男孩不快樂,，

that boy is unhappy,

他的自心內(nèi)有著怒氣和暴力，

there is anger or violence in him,

而他并不知道要如何處理

and he does not know how to handle

他自心內(nèi)的暴力,、他自心中的不快樂,。

the violence in him, the unhappiness in him,

那就是為什么他在受苦。

that is why he suffers.

而當(dāng)他那么地受苦,，

And, when he suffers like that,

他很自然地讓

it is natural that he makes people

他周圍的人和他一樣受苦,。

around him suffer like that.

所以，當(dāng)你看見了他或她自心內(nèi)的怒氣,，

So, when you see the anger

in him or in her,

你就會(huì)明白

and you understand

那怒氣...

that anger...

你就再也不會(huì)生他的氣了,。

you are no longer angry at him.

可憐的小男孩?？蓱z的小女孩,。

Poor little boy. Poor little girl.

他們受苦。

They suffer.

我不要懲罰他,，

I don't want to punish him,

不要讓他受更多的苦了,。

to make him suffer more.

我要讓他減輕痛苦。

I want to make him suffer less.

所以你對他微笑,。

And, you smile to him. .

你說：「親愛的朋友,，」

You say: 'Dear friend,

I know that you suffer.'

「我不氣你，」

'I am not angry at you,'

「即便你對我說了」

'even if you have said something'

「那么樣的話?！?/p>

'like that to me.'

「即便你對我做了那么樣的事,。」

'Even if you have done

something like that to me.'

「因?yàn)槟闶芎芏嗟目??！?/p>

'Because you suffer a lot.'

「所以，我不怪你,?！?/p>

'So, I do not blame you.'

「我不生你的氣?！?/p>

'I am not angry at you.'

「我在吸氣和呼氣,。」

'I am breathing in and out.'

「我理解你,?！?/p>

'I understand you.'

「那就是為什么我不生你的氣?！?/p>

'That is why I am not angry at you.'

「我沒有受苦,。」

'I do not suffer.'

你是一個(gè)好的修習(xí)者,。

You are a good practitioner.

而他會(huì)感到驚訝,。

And, he will be amazed.

其他人會(huì)有不同的反應(yīng),。

Other people will react differently.

他們會(huì)打他或

They will hit him or tell him

對他說很難聽的話,。

something very mean.

但是你不那么做。

But you are not doing that.

你用一個(gè)截然不同的方法來反應(yīng),；

You are reacting in a very different way;

你用溫柔,、用慈悲，

with tenderness, with loving kindness,

....用微笑,。

...smiles.

而他會(huì)感到驚訝,。

And, he will be amazed.

有一天，他會(huì)問你：

And, one day, he will ask you:

「你是怎么做到的,？」

'How can you do that?!'

「當(dāng)有人說了」

'When someone said something'

「非常粗暴,、非常難聽的話；」

'very brutal, very mean,'

「和做非常暴力的事情來,，」

'and did something violent like that'

「你還可以保持冷靜,，」

'and you can still keep your calm,'

「保持和平?！?/p>

'your peace.'

「你是怎么做的,？」

'How?!'

而你告訴他，你告訴她

And, then, you tell him, you tell her

你是怎么來到梅村

how you have come to Plum Village

學(xué)習(xí)了那種正念呼吸

and learn that kind

of mindful breathing,

來認(rèn)識(shí)你自心中的憤怒，

and recognize the anger in yourself,

和認(rèn)識(shí)你內(nèi)在的憤怒

and recognize anger in you

和對方內(nèi)在的憤怒,。

and in that person.

所以你那么年輕就來到這里

So, you come here as a very young people,

而我們學(xué)習(xí)這些美好的事物,。

and we learn these wonderful things.

當(dāng)你會(huì)去學(xué)校時(shí)，

And, you might be able to share that

你或許也可以和

with your friends,