where does thisanger come from?how does it form ?do i create it immdiately?do i get the timeto formulate it ? or is it quickly or instantaniously?if it is too quick , itmeans that i have it already.& this response of anger makes my heart beatfaster, my blood pressure goes up , the acid in my stomach increases, i get red,my breathing becomes faster.... etc..etc... it means myanger is affecting me only，it doesnt affect anybody else,。not even to the person to whom i am angry at.這意味著我的憤怒僅對(duì)我發(fā)生作用,，而不會(huì)影響別人。即便對(duì)那個(gè)令我生氣的人也沒有發(fā)生作用,。 my anger hurtsonly me,，this anger whichappears suddenly is already stored in me ，in my mind ,，my mind is the largest part of my existance..it is within my body& surrounding my body too.each & every cell of my body holds my mind,，& my mind is completely filled withmemories. if we speak ofthis existence ....our memories have started forming in the womb of mother.fromthat time , my birth & my learning , i have collected memories..every smallthing i wanted , every disagreement with my surrounding . my parents, myteachers & everybody around me,，under the pretext of teaching me or making me a good person hasdenied me something ，& i couldnot know why ?i could not ask or reply back .that smallsmall things which dissappointed me has become a large part of my memory.thatunexpressed disappointment has remained in my mind ,，waiting for the opportunity to express. i wanted toexpress it very much , but my teachings, my manners , my taught respect towardsall grown up has stopped me.& now i am grown up .now when i see some thingnot happening as i want ..... my memory immidiately opens a door & iexpress , i respond，& i am deeply involved in my memories, so the response becomesvery intense..... that is anger i am full ofthese memories.... so every small thing triggers it ,as this memory too is waiting for an opportunityto come out & shout. i am so filled with this memory that i express my lovetoo in anger,& this my memory , which is erupting at every small thingcauses problems in my relationship.as if we are the victims of this memory. i have seen thatall young girls always fight with their boyfriends or husband...when asked why?dont you like him?the answer is no ... i love him but i am always angry athim...as if our closest relation becomes a cushion the releave this suppressedmemory. our anger isalways from memory its what we stored , thats why only we are afftected by it.so whenever you are angry at somebody , remember our this talk.& talkcalmly , peacefully , let the response be without much intensity.so let it bejust a thought from memory & not a very intense thought.thats what wewanted to know together....thank you verymuch for your patience .now if we have any questions , we are welcome... 我們需要以不傷害別人也不傷害自己的的方式表達(dá)憤怒,，不要告訴自己不要生氣,，我們一直以來(lái)都是這么做以致于記憶中積累了更多的憤怒。將憤怒表達(dá)出來(lái),，不要讓它控制你,，當(dāng)你憤怒，就喝水,，給自己一點(diǎn)時(shí)間,。 心路：那么我該如何表達(dá)憤怒，可以既不傷害別人又不傷害自己呢,？好像是需要很長(zhǎng)時(shí)間去處理憤怒,。 我可以做這一點(diǎn)決定：每當(dāng)我生氣的時(shí)候我就閉上我的眼睛,，試圖去看我的憤怒,，稍后在予以回應(yīng)。這只是做出決定的問題,。了解憤怒是解決它的開始,，現(xiàn)在我們已經(jīng)擁有對(duì)于憤怒的理解，讓我們好好想想,，想想我所知道或理解的憤怒,，嘗試著清晰的理解它。讓我明白我的憤怒,，你會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)它并不困難…… 心路：是的,，我明白了。謝謝博士,！這是一個(gè)朋友提出的問題：我先生總是為很小的事情生氣,，有時(shí)候我不知該怎么做他才不生氣，家里人都很恐懼他,，我該如何做,？他情緒說(shuō)來(lái)就來(lái),，一句話不合他意思，馬上翻臉罵人,。 迪帕克博士：usually we decide that its difficult even before trying ...let him be angry...you maintain your calm...let him express his memory ... remember he is a victim of his memory..let him be angryif you dontreply him in anger ....he will learn.. 記住,，他是他記憶的受害者,，就讓他憤怒吧，如果你不以憤怒回應(yīng),，他會(huì)有所悟…… 心路：非常感謝博士,！ 不客氣，不需要感謝,，這是我們一起共同學(xué)習(xí)的旅程……   |
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