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There are huge differences in the way men and women gossip - and it's not as simple as talking about football versus talking about shopping. 不要以為男男和女女互相八卦的唯一區(qū)別在于前者聊足球,，而后者聊購物,。不是,！這兩種性別的生物八卦的方式可大不一樣,。 For men, gossiping together brings them closer - but that effect doesn't work for women, and gossip can threaten friendships. 對于男人來講,，八卦能拉近彼此的距離——但不幸的是，這條定律對女人來說可不受用——女人更容易在八卦后反目成仇,！ Oddly, the fact that men might be talking about football actually brings them closer. ]Even boasting about achievements such as pay rises seems to bring men together. 說來也奇怪,，男人之間竟然連談?wù)撟闱蚨祭舜岁P(guān)系；即使是夸口“老子工資又漲了,！”都能讓哥倆間更親近,。 'The male friendship is more characterized by engaging in group activities so gossip can serve to enhance the bond between individuals within the group,' says David C Watson of Grant McEwan University at Edmonton. “男人之間的友誼，多是通過參與團體活動,、相互閑扯,，從而使個人與群體的關(guān)系更緊密?！眮碜约幽么蟀５旅深D市格蘭特麥克尤恩大學的大衛(wèi) 沃森說道。 But because female friendships 'run deeper', gossip can have the opposite effect. Women tend to chat a lot about physical appearance, and this can actually threaten their friendships. 但是,，女性之間的友誼更為“深沉”,，所以有時反而會達到相反效果。女人們喜歡扎堆討論打扮啦外表之類的問題,，這些東西會損害她們間的感情,。 'Female friendships are more characterized by communion or intimacy. Gossip can be more of a threat to the relationship than it does in male friendships,' says Watson. Both sexes, predictably, gossip in rather different ways. “因為女性友誼的特點在于共享、親密,。因此,，八卦這件事不一定會帶來像男性一樣的效果，卻很可能適得其反,?！币驗檫@兩種性別的八卦方式非常不同。 'Physical appearance gossip was found to be more prevalent in females,' says Watson. 'but it doesn't help with friendship quality. This type of gossip may be a more of a competitive threat to the relationship in females. “女性間經(jīng)常談?wù)摯虬?、外表之類的話題”,，沃森說道，“但這些東西不能在實質(zhì)上幫助友情的維系,。因為這是種隱含了相互攀比意味的方式,。” The study examined gender differences in the relationship between friendship quality and gossip tendency with a sample of 167 female and 69 male Western Canadian undergraduate University students using the Friendship questionnaire and the Tendency to Gossip questionnaire. 這項研究是通過對加拿大西部一所大學中167位女生和69為男生的問卷采訪完成的,。 被采訪人需要做一份關(guān)于友誼的問卷和一份對于八卦偏好的問卷,。這項研究的側(cè)重點在于兩性間的友誼與其八卦傾向的影響,。 |
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