人的五種有害思想及克服方法

Have you ever seen a friend or a loved one completely sabotage their success? Of course, we all have. As a friend, we're there on the sidelines trying to help them but they are so blind to their surroundings and so set in their ways that they are like a run away train that nothing can slow down.

你有沒有眼看著你的朋友或者愛人走向失敗深淵過？當然,，我們都有過這樣的經(jīng)歷,。作為朋友,，我們以旁觀者的身份去幫助他們,，但他們已經(jīng)對自己周圍的環(huán)境視而不見并限定在自己的方式中,，就像一個失控的火車無法停下來一樣,。

That’s often a negative belief at work. If you don’t believe you deserve to earn over $50,000 a year, you probably won’t. You will turn down opportunities because they seem too good to be true, and you will miss lucky breaks because you aren’t expecting them. Heck, you aren't even looking for them.

這其實是負面的思想在作祟,。如果你不相信自己一年賺的錢能超過50,000美元,，那你很可能實際也做不到。即便有機會,，你也會拒絕,，因為你覺得機會太好自己都不相信是真的,。

This doesn’t mean you are stuck there for the rest of your life. Life is fluid and things change, but that change must begin with you.

這不意味著你的生活就此禁錮住了。生命是流動的事情是變化的,，但這樣的變化也取決于你自己,。

One of the first steps of changing for the better is becoming aware of what is going on, so let’s have a look at some of the common destructive beliefs we all hold to one degree or another, or at least I hold. Hopefully I’m not the only messed up person here.

要想事情有所轉(zhuǎn)機，第一步就要先認識到當前的情勢,，所以先來看看我們每個人或多或少都會有的一些常見負面想法,，起碼這些觀點我有。希望我不是唯一困惑的人,。

Anyway, let’s move forward, shall we?

不管怎么樣,，我們開始吧。

I Am Not Good Enough

我不夠好

I have dreams. You have dreams. We all have dreams, but there’s always something holding us back. If it isn’t money, resources, or skills, then it is a fear of not being good enough.

你,，我,，我們都擁有夢想，但總有些事情阻礙了我們前進的步伐,。如果阻礙你的不是錢,、資源、能力,，那就是認為自己不夠好的擔心,。

I go through bouts of feeling like I have nothing to contribute to the world, but I keep writing, producing, and improving what I do, because that’s all I can do. It’s all I want to do. Life is not all a dance on roses. You will feel down even when others think you’re a success, and you will feel on top of the world when everybody else thinks you’ve lost your mind.

認為自己一無是處的想法我有過很多次，但我仍堅持寫作,、出書,，并不斷的提升自己，因為這是我能做的,，同時也是我愿意去做的,。生活并非總像在鮮花中舞蹈那樣美好。即便他人認為你成功的時候你也可能感覺情緒失落,，而他人認為你瘋了的時候你卻感覺良好,。

Funny how life works sometimes, isn’t it?

生活有時是非常滑稽的對嗎,？

I Am Not Worth It

我不配

A lot of self-sabotage happens because of this belief. Your beliefs can play tricks on you and it can be as simple as procrastinating and missing a deadline if you’re a freelancer, or just missing a few vital goals in your online business.

I wish getting rid of these beliefs were easy, but it isn’t, or at least it hasn’t been for me. It’s probably been 7-8 years since I’ve discovered that I have these beliefs. I’ve gotten a lot better, that’s for sure, but there’s still a lot that can be improved; there always is.

I Can’t Do It

我做不到

How often have you heard this one? For the last seven years, I’ve earned my living primarily through online poker and online business, and throughout these years I’ve had many friends and acquaintances tell me how lucky or how talented I am.

你常聽到這樣的說法嗎,？在過去的七年里,，我主要依靠在線撲克以及在線交易謀生，這些年許多朋友都說,，你真是既幸運又非常有才華?。?strong class="label bg2" jQuery1315984051468="78">

Now, I’m not saying I wasn’t lucky, because there are many things that come into play for me to be where I am today, such as getting access to computers at an early age, learning how to navigate the internet, and even bumping into a friend who made a living playing poker.

我不是想說自己不幸運,，因為是許多事情才成就了今天的我,，比如很早就開始接觸計算機，學(xué)著如何應(yīng)用網(wǎng)絡(luò),，偶然看到朋友通過網(wǎng)絡(luò)撲克賺錢等等,。

There are various forms of I Can’t Do It-itis, but when you notice where it is controlling your life, you can take corrective action.

類似于“我做不到”這樣的想法是多種多樣的，但當你注意到這樣的想法限制了你生活中的某一點時,，你就要采取積極的行動了,。

I Am Alone

我總是孤身一人

I used to think everyone was against me and I’d curse people who always seemed to have it easy. Everything fell in place for them and they checked off success after success.

過去我常對身邊的人有敵意，也詛咒那些總是輕松取得成功的人,。對他們來講,，似乎一切事情都井然有序,經(jīng)歷了一次又一次的成功。

That was almost ten years ago and I’m on the road to getting better. The difference in my mindset has made a big impact in what my life looks like. Instead of looking for negativity, I now look for more positivity. Not all the time, but I do my best.

這樣的狀態(tài)大概是十年前,，現(xiàn)在我的狀態(tài)開始逐漸好轉(zhuǎn),。思想上的轉(zhuǎn)變對于我的生活產(chǎn)生了重要的影響。與以往不同,，我不再只看那些消極的東西,，而是盡量去關(guān)注更積極的一面。盡管不是一直能做到,，但我已經(jīng)盡了自己最大努力去做,。

As a side note I have to mention that feeling bad isn’t bad. We live in a culture where we are supposed to be happy and cheerful all the time, but that just isn’t reality. When we try to suppress our negativity, bad things happen. Whenever I’m negative, I sit with it, breathe, and do my best to be present.

我必須提到的一點是，感覺糟糕并不是一件壞事,，我們所生活的文化氛圍中,，更鼓勵人們應(yīng)該一直的保持快樂、開心,，但這并不現(xiàn)實,。當我們試圖去壓抑自身的負面情感時，糟糕的事情就發(fā)生了。無論何時我不開心了,，我會靜坐,，深呼吸，盡量的讓自己著眼當下,。

Not always easy, but much more effective than trying to push it away.

雖然這并非總能輕易做到,，但這要比逃避更有效。

What If ...

What if the internet goes away and my websites are destroyed? What if this and that happens which completely ruins all of your efforts? You don’t leave yourself a lot of options if you’re constantly fearing the worst. Sure, you could spend your days working at the local diner, but it too can disappear just like anything else.

要是沒有網(wǎng)絡(luò)或者我的網(wǎng)站被人破壞了該怎么辦呢,？如果某件事讓你的努力功虧一簣怎么辦呢？如果你一直擔心壞的事情,，你自然讓自己的選擇空間變小,。當然了，也存在這樣的可能,，一直潛心于地方速食店的生意,，而有一天這種事物卻不再流行就像許多被淘汰的事物一樣。

We seem to think that being employed provides us with the ultimate security, but as we’ve seen in the last few years, that’s more fiction than reality.

我們總是認為,，有人雇傭便有了足夠的安全感,，但這幾年我們也看到了，這樣的想法太不現(xiàn)實,。

How to Overcome All of the Above

如何去克服這些負面的思想呢,？

If there was a simple technique or secret I could give you, I would. However, getting rid of the destructive beliefs above isn’t easy. It’s not impossible, but you have to be determined to change.

如果真有簡便易行的技巧或者竅門，我一定會告訴你,。然而,，想擺脫負面的思維方式不是件容易的事兒。不是不可能,，但是你要有想改變的堅定的心,。

If this were easy, everyone would be skipping around with a flower in their hand and a smile on their face. The key is baby steps. There’s no rush, and there’s nowhere you need to be. You are who you are.

如果這很容易實現(xiàn)，每個人可能都能戰(zhàn)勝自己,，手捧鮮花面帶微笑的生活,。關(guān)鍵在于邁出第一步。不要匆忙,，也無需強求自己達到某種特定的狀態(tài),，就做你自己好了。

It sounds cheesy to say that you have to accept and forgive yourself, but it’s true. Often we resist what and who we are, what we have accomplished, or haven’t accomplished, because society says this or that.

如果說接受并寬恕自己,，也許這聽起來讓人覺得不值一提,，但這就是事實。因為世俗的眼光,，讓我們總是不愿承認真實的自己什么樣,，也不愿面對我們已經(jīng)取得了哪些成績或者哪些還做得不夠。

There’s a lot to this and this article has just scratched the surface.

關(guān)于這一點,，其實我們可以討論的更多,，但這里點到為止了。

Do you have any tips for how you’ve improved your life? I’d love to hear them, and I’m sure everyone else reading this article would, too.

對于如何改善自己的生活你有什么其他建議嗎,？我很樂于傾聽,，相信讀這篇文章的其他人也愿意。

Written on 3/06/2011 by Henri Junttila. Henri writes at Wake Up Cloud, where he shares his personal tips on how you can live the life you know you deserve. When you feel ready to take action, get his free course: Find Your Passion in 5 Days or Less. And if you liked this article, you will enjoy one of his top articles: 77 Great Quotes That Will Change Your Life.

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