Thanks, road love, apologize, say goodbye, this is life often have to deal with four issues. Lots of people think this four answers to the questions on the road, can clearly see through. The Grudge, learn to love and hatred, put down the regret and guilt, physical and mental health has many benefits.

Thanks 

1.: find the source of happiness

Thank is thankful, thankful for everything you do for contribution to the people and things. Gratitude is a natural flow of emotional, physical and mental to make peace, for health plus. American University of California, Los Angeles campus research participants who make every day worth thankful wrote things, 6 weeks later, they found the body in response to reduce inflammation xiǎn zhe; and the university of California, San Diego campus The researchers found that: have a thankful heart, can make heart failure patients have been able to improve the physical and mental state. The United States of North Carolina At Chapel Hill school psychologist found the partner, always used to say "thank you" people, marriage life satisfaction.

Gratitude is deeply rooted in the American cultural gene in Korea, for example, the letter " a " rice daughter when to repay a rice ;" the grass grass " is an expression of parents filial, I'm grateful. China's Mental Health Association Executive Committee of the li jian ming recommendations, except used to say "thank you", also thankful to have the operation. On the one hand, to everyone smile, kind word, say the words, the initiative to help a little busy, etc, are the best way to be thankful. On the other hand, you can do it every day thankful notes, timely record of what happened that day worth of gratitude, the best thing you can share on social media, but also can form a kind of cognitive habits.

2. Road: let love each other more recognition

Partner, children, the elderly...... everyone needs love, but Americans have traditionally been reserved for love, can't be coy about love relay to others.

Parents are the love of a child is the most pure, but many people don't express love to the kids, or use the name of love hurt kids, thinking of love " chips " and " this is for your own good " over and over. Wait till they found the old life, despite the kid's got filial piety, but his heart away from getting away. But, parents didn't teach kids how to express love, how do you know how kids love to say? Even in love thick between partners,"love" word seems to be very hard to say. There was a survey found that scholars, lots of couples almost never had emotional expression. The United States and North Carolina State University study found that, often with love hug useful heart health, also can enhance intimacy.

Everyone is trying to get to the heart says, no matter the love of each other's children, partner or mom and dad. Daring to express out love each other, more recognition, to be able to experience, appreciate and understand each other can truly know your love. All these years with the social changes, and people for the expression of love getting straight, the child's love also increasingly common, but for parents to express love still reticent. But in fact the body of the elderly, heart often frustration, need more sons and daughters of love. Recommendations usually with old man's hands or give them a hug. Exposure of the body is the soul of the hotels near the limbs, silent moves sometimes more wins language, can make the elderly feel be inclusive, to be taken care of. Spanish study found that, hug the elderly can lower blood pressure; and American Ohio State University research shows that more is, hug can ease the elderly lonely, reduces stress. Maybe for the first time hug mom and dad, you'll be a little awkward, they will feel ridiculous, but a touching will soon be serenity heart and gradually become a habit.

3. Apology: put down the pain of the past

Inevitable in life there are many regrettable things. The reality of the situation at that time, we may fail to recognize that, it just happened. Looking back, if ever used was still happen remorse, guilt, or complain, has no meaning, and also very sad. The moment of life. For the elderly, if you can't put down these memories, it will give tiān dǔ lives in old age.

Some old memories of forty to fifty years ago for child's education, feel too rough, often because of a little trivia and hit the kid, even though things have been in the past, the children have even don't remember, but these injuries probably buried deep in the subconscious, become a parent-child Room in my mind.. Like an old man said :" the past temper be quite large. At that time, the child may be in my heart, dad is not love me, how do I? Now we got old and brave enough to apologize to the children. When I say, each other's mind. Just open, just let it go." apology is door important homework, can help people to think, evaluate past events, to resolve the conflicts and contradictions, can also teach people forgiveness, appreciation, praise, thanks .

Attitude to apologise sincerely. As a song [mistakenly touch people's feet] said in the poem,"touch. Pedestrian foot off, Sue said to offend me when cooked configuration; this party tè hill hill, Peter love yu but thick hair, light" mean, Your sins will have heavy as mountains, each other's anger often will light as mao.

Goodbye 

4.: open the new age life

Life, life has a very big changes, life after retirement, no used to enrich, many elderly people will there is a sense of loss. In fact, his life is also a new journey of life, learn to say goodbye to the past, and to put down the old fast, and the new retirement life. Hugs.

Old people can imagine, used to work and worries in life are not can drop? A new life shouldn't have brought into the past, the old man to worries and negative thinking, and bid farewell to bid farewell to the old life. Song Dynasty Astronomers Xin Qiji in the west river month writes in the wind," everything is fluctuating, hundred years po yoo new bad, and what is the most affordable? Ikea Ikea Ikea trip drunk sleep ". mean, life is uneventful. Half, body and all of a sudden aging, may wish to do something like things. The past can't drink wine. Now, we can drink some wine, make yourself sick.; can also travel around, to have never been to place to take a look. Also want to eliminate the "old. What won't do anything." Stereotype, fulfilling years to spend. Finally, the old, the body recession is a natural phenomenon, health good body, maintain good mentality, can have wonderful years of life.