Despite attempts to look calm, cool, andcollected like any other man, there are a number a things I will do around aninitial date that clue you in that I'm interested. Here are a few:

在與女士第一次約會(huì)的時(shí)候,，我會(huì)像其他所有男士一樣保持冷靜,、淡定、從容的態(tài)度,，盡管如此,，你還是可以從我的某些舉止中得到暗示，發(fā)現(xiàn)我對(duì)對(duì)方心存好感,。比如下面所說(shuō)的幾件事,。

1. Completing the Date

不中途逃脫

It may not indicate that you're the appleof my eye, but it does indicate that you're not a total disaster. Most peopleare courteous enough to do the absolute minimum on a date: finish whateveractivity you're doing together and devote sufficient time out of respect forthe other person. But some situations are such utter disaster, things must becut short.

這也許并不能代表你是我的夢(mèng)中情人，但卻能說(shuō)明,，你在我心中并不算糟糕,。這是對(duì)約會(huì)雙方的基本禮儀，大多數(shù)人都能出于禮貌做到這一點(diǎn)：出于對(duì)對(duì)方的尊重,，無(wú)論兩人一起做什么都要善始善終，投入足夠的時(shí)間和精力,。不過(guò)有的時(shí)候局面糟糕透頂,，就要速戰(zhàn)速?zèng)Q了。

2. One on One

一對(duì)一

If I'm into you, and comfortable, I won'twant to 'share' you. A common tactic to combat a boring date iscalling in 'reinforcement' friends to 'dilute' you. I'mnaturally talkative with those around me, but if I invite everyone else aroundus into our party, I might be looking for a more interesting outlet.

如果我對(duì)你有意,，和你在一起感到舒服,，我一定不會(huì)和別人“分享”你的陪伴。當(dāng)男士們?cè)谝淮渭s會(huì)中感到無(wú)聊時(shí),，他們慣常采用的策略就是招來(lái)一群“救場(chǎng)”的朋友,，好分散他花在你身上的注意力。當(dāng)我的朋友們?cè)趫?chǎng)時(shí),，我也會(huì)變成話嘮,，不過(guò)如果我和你進(jìn)行二人約會(huì)時(shí)也這樣招呼來(lái)所有的小伙伴，這就說(shuō)明我想要找個(gè)更有趣的出路了,。

3. Extending the Date

延長(zhǎng)約會(huì)的時(shí)間

Suggesting something (other than going backto someone's place) after dinner like taking a walk, grabbing a drink, goingfor dessert, catching a movie, etc., indicates I'm asking for an encore.

晚餐之后,，我提出了友好的建議（而不是看著別人的飯桌），比如我們?nèi)ド€(gè)步,、喝杯酒,、吃個(gè)甜點(diǎn)、看個(gè)電影等等,，這都暗示著我想要延長(zhǎng)我們的約會(huì),。

4. Suggesting Another Date

提議再次約會(huì)

Sometimes I get so excited during a firstdate I play my cards by suggesting other things we should do together. A commontime to suggest another date is at the end of the date, though some guys justsay this to be friendly.

有時(shí)候我在第一次約會(huì)時(shí)就感到非常開(kāi)心,，這時(shí)我就會(huì)采取進(jìn)一步策略，提出各種小建議,，下次再一起去做其他活動(dòng),。一般人會(huì)在約會(huì)結(jié)束時(shí)提出下次約會(huì)的建議，不過(guò)也有人只是出于禮貌才這樣說(shuō),。

5. Friendly Follow-Up Right After You SayGood-bye

告別之后的友好問(wèn)候

Sometimes after a date, I'll text the girltelling her I had a great time, out of sheer giddiness. If I'm not interestedafter the date, I'll head straight home and begin my process of fading out ofthis girl's life.

偶爾在一次約會(huì)之后,，我會(huì)告訴對(duì)方我覺(jué)得很開(kāi)心，這完全處于一種意亂情迷的狀態(tài),。如果我對(duì)這次約會(huì)并不中意,，我就會(huì)徑直回家，開(kāi)始采取策略,，漸漸淡出這個(gè)女孩的生活,。

6. Consistency

關(guān)系維持的時(shí)間長(zhǎng)

Hold me to a higher standard than one extradate, or one call back after the initial date. How many times have you gone ona few dates only to have it fizzle out? You can't be sure I'm interested untilwe've gone out consistently for more than a month.

怎么才能知道我希望約會(huì)雙方的關(guān)系進(jìn)入一個(gè)新階段？除了第二次約會(huì)的邀請(qǐng),，或者在第一次約會(huì)之后再次通電話,，還有更明顯的暗示。如果我們相互邀約的關(guān)系已經(jīng)維持了一個(gè)月之久,，你就能確信我對(duì)你有意了,。

英大只能幫你到這了，實(shí)際還得看自己的修煉程度啦,！祝各位看到這里的讀者都能追到心上人,，嘻嘻嘻。