15 Do's and Don'ts When Dating
15件約會(huì)時(shí)該做和不該做的事

1. DO Turn up on time.
準(zhǔn)時(shí)赴約

Imagine that for every minute you are delayed your date will be thinking about how the possibility of them being stood up. You’ll have left them in the restaurant or bar looking at their watch feeling self-conscious about everyone watching them sitting there alone.
試想一下，在你遲到的每分鐘里,，你的約會(huì)對(duì)象可能都在想自己是不是會(huì)被放鴿子,。另外，你把他們單獨(dú)留在飯館或者酒吧里,，這會(huì)讓他們覺(jué)得很難為情,，一直不停地看手表，一個(gè)人坐在那兒,，感覺(jué)所有人都在盯著自己,。

2. Don’t talk about how great you are.
不要一直說(shuō)自己有多好

How off-putting! Your date does not, I repeat NOT want to hear all about you. They want to be listened to, respected and engaged with. There will be plenty of time for them get to know you, just wait your turn and reveal more about you when the time calls for it.
多讓人討厭啊,！你的約會(huì)對(duì)象不想聽(tīng)你一直說(shuō)自己的事情,。他們希望能被傾聽(tīng)、被尊重,，能多和你有一些交流,。以后還會(huì)有大把的時(shí)間讓他們?nèi)チ私饽悖阋龅木褪庆o心等待,，等需要你更多地展示自己的時(shí)候再說(shuō)也來(lái)得及,。

3. DO be interested.
要表現(xiàn)得有興趣

If you’re meeting for the first time it’s likely you’ll find out a lot about your date that you never knew. Some of it may be of interest to you, some not, but act like you are interested. Think of the effort they have made to tell you things that are important to them and show some interest in what they are saying. Which leads me to my next point.
如果你們是第一次見(jiàn)面的話,，一定會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)對(duì)方許多你以前不知道的事情,。有些可能是你有興趣的，有些則沒(méi)有，但無(wú)論如何你都要表現(xiàn)得有興趣,。想想他們是多么努力地告訴你對(duì)他們來(lái)說(shuō)很重要的事情,，所以你也應(yīng)該對(duì)他們說(shuō)的事情表現(xiàn)出興趣。這就引出下面我要說(shuō)的第4點(diǎn)建議,。

4. Don’t keep checking your phone.
不要一直看手機(jī)

This shows total lack of interest and disrespect to the conversation. If you check your phone you are clearly saying that your phone is more important than the person sitting opposite you. Prepare to get the bus home.
一直看手機(jī)是對(duì)談話不感興趣和不禮貌的表現(xiàn),。如果你翻看手機(jī)的話，很明顯是在告訴對(duì)方電話比他/她重要,。那么你就可以坐車(chē)回家了,。

5. DO Listen more.
要學(xué)會(huì)傾聽(tīng)

We all like the sound of our own voice but when you are getting to know someone and the relationship is in it’s raw phase then quieten and take in what has been said. Speak less and show your interest by listening more.
我們都喜歡聽(tīng)自己說(shuō)話的聲音，但如果你在了解一個(gè)人,，而且你們的關(guān)系才剛剛開(kāi)始的話,，那么你就應(yīng)該安靜下來(lái)，去傾聽(tīng)對(duì)方在說(shuō)什么,。少說(shuō)話,，多傾聽(tīng)來(lái)表現(xiàn)出你的興趣。

6. Don’t be under-dressed.
不要穿得過(guò)于隨便

Being overdressed is far better than turning up looking a scruff. Your date will appreciate the effort you made and if they haven’t made as much of an effort then they will aim to the next time you meet up.
打扮得過(guò)于精心也比看起來(lái)邋遢好很多,。你為了見(jiàn)面所花的心思會(huì)讓對(duì)方很感動(dòng),，而且他們?nèi)绻X(jué)得自己做得不如你好，那么就會(huì)努力在下次見(jiàn)面的時(shí)候表現(xiàn)得更好一點(diǎn),。

7. DO ask more questions.
要多問(wèn)問(wèn)題

That’s right by now you are so interested in what they are saying that you want to know more. Listen, take in the information and ask questions to prove that what you have heard is computing.
這是對(duì)的,，說(shuō)明到目前為止，你對(duì)他們說(shuō)的事情很感興趣,，所以還想知道得更多,。聽(tīng)他們說(shuō)的話，了解其內(nèi)容,，并問(wèn)一些相關(guān)的問(wèn)題來(lái)證明你真的聽(tīng)進(jìn)去了他們說(shuō)的話,。

8. Don’t try and be perfect.
不要把自己表現(xiàn)得很完美

No one is perfect and no one is looking for Mr or Mrs perfect. No relationship is built on perfection so no need to worry if your date doesn’t seem too impressed with your little quirks or silly habits. Your imperfection is what makes you perfect.
沒(méi)有人是完美的，也沒(méi)有人在找完美的另一半,。沒(méi)有一段關(guān)系是建立在雙方都完美的基礎(chǔ)上的,，所以如果對(duì)方因?yàn)槟愕囊恍┬」竹被蛘卟缓玫牧?xí)慣而對(duì)你不太感冒的話，你也不用太擔(dān)心,。讓你完美的正是你的不完美,。

9. DO Make eye contact.
要有眼神接觸

People will assess honesty through eye contact. The more you look away when you are speaking the more dishonest you will seem. You don’t need to stare your date out with your lovers eyes, just know that a better connection will be made if you keep your focus on them.
人們會(huì)通過(guò)眼神接觸來(lái)判斷對(duì)方是否誠(chéng)實(shí)。在說(shuō)話的時(shí)候,，一個(gè)人越是常常轉(zhuǎn)移目光,，看起來(lái)就越不誠(chéng)實(shí)。你不需要用你充滿愛(ài)意的眼睛死盯著對(duì)方,，你只需要知道只要你關(guān)注對(duì)方,，你們之間就能建立一個(gè)更好的關(guān)系,。

10. Don’t spend too long talking about past relationships.
不要花太多時(shí)間談過(guò)去的戀情

This subject is best mentioned and not elaborated on. Nobody wants to hear how much you loved your ex and how wonderful your life was with them. If you find yourself in the middle of this conversation I suggest you moonwalk out the bar and get a taxi home.
這個(gè)話題最好能一帶而過(guò)，不要多加贅述,。沒(méi)有人會(huì)想聽(tīng)你說(shuō)自己多愛(ài)前任,，你們?cè)谝黄鸬纳钍嵌嗝疵篮谩Ｈ绻惆l(fā)現(xiàn)自己正在談?wù)撨@個(gè)話題的話,，我建議你用太空步走出酒吧,，然后打的回家。

11. DO be honest.
要誠(chéng)實(shí)

The relationship between you two will start off in the best possible way if you are totally honest with your date. This is the way I see it. You should always be proud of expressing exactly who you are and what you stand for and if it doesn’t sit well with them then you know that they aren’t the right person for you.
如果你能做到以誠(chéng)相待的話,，你倆之間的關(guān)系就能以最好的方式開(kāi)始,。這就是我看到的“誠(chéng)實(shí)”的作用。你要是能準(zhǔn)確地表達(dá)出自己是個(gè)什么樣的人,，你的立場(chǎng)和觀念是什么,，就應(yīng)該為自己感到自豪。如果對(duì)方無(wú)法接受這些,，那么你也能知道他們不是那個(gè)適合你的人,。

12. Don’t think too far ahead
不要想太遠(yuǎn)

Enjoy the moment! Forget what might happen, what could happen and all the variables and just enjoy your date, focus on connecting and being happy in the moment.
享受現(xiàn)在！忘記可能發(fā)生的事情,，忘記可以發(fā)生的事情,，忘記所有的可變因素，好好享受你們的約會(huì),，把精力集中在倆人心與心的連通上,，享受當(dāng)下的幸福。

13.Do offer to pay for the bill.
要主動(dòng)買(mǎi)單

Guys find it attractive if a lady shows intention of paying for the bill. It’s sexy, and shows that she is able to look after herself, but guys if you are reading this do not let the lady pay on the first date. Take control of the payment as the ladies like the same quality in us.
有的男性認(rèn)為主動(dòng)提出要買(mǎi)單的女性非常有魅力,。在他們看來(lái),，這一舉動(dòng)非常迷人，而且說(shuō)明她有能力照顧自己,，但是,，男人們，看完這篇文章后,，千萬(wàn)不要第一次約會(huì)的時(shí)候就讓女性買(mǎi)單了,。主動(dòng)買(mǎi)單同樣也是女性欣賞的一個(gè)品質(zhì)。

14. Don’t use cheesy lines.
不要說(shuō)爛情話

You’re not thirteen years old any more so don’t even go there. Cheesy lines should be left to teenagers, movies and people that have no interest in ever dating again. Not wise and not cool, enough said on that one.
你不是13歲了,，所以不要再做這樣的事了,。爛情話是留給小年輕們、電影臺(tái)詞和不想有第二次約會(huì)的人去用的,。

15. Do throw in a compliment or two.
要夸獎(jiǎng)對(duì)方一兩句,。

We all love a compliment and I suggest that throwing one in to the conversation will only be a positive move. Keep it simple, keep it clean and say it like you mean it, not just because you are returning a compliment.
每個(gè)人都喜歡被別人贊美，所以我認(rèn)為在聊天的時(shí)候夸獎(jiǎng)對(duì)方一兩句肯定能起到積極作用,。贊美之詞一定要簡(jiǎn)單,、純潔,，把你真正想說(shuō)的表達(dá)出來(lái)，而不要說(shuō)得像是在回敬對(duì)方的贊美一樣,。

Now go and get working my good people and may cupid be looking down on you. Adios!
現(xiàn)在大家都去好好約會(huì)吧，愿丘比特眷顧你們,！再見(jiàn),！

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