跑馬大叔三語美文朗讀,，周一誠意奉上雞湯美文——《寬恕》FORGIVENESS。

原諒與寬恕,，并不是要忘掉，而是要笑著記住,，然后繼續(xù)前行,。放不下,，說明還被困著,。世界那么大,，快樂那么多，哪兒有時間去浪費在過往的不愉快里呢,。

FORGIVENESS

Anonymous

For some people forgiveness feels impossible because they have no idea how to go about it. The first and most important thing you need to accept is that the act of forgiveness is not going to be easy. In fact, it will probably be the hardest thing most of us ever have to do.

It seems totally unfair that we should have to forgive when we're the ones who have been hurt. And that's the crux of forgiveness. It seems unfair because it is unfair. Otherwise, what is the need of forgiveness? Forgiveness is about pardoning things that are essentially inexcusable. After all, if something can be excused, it doesn't need forgiving, does it?

The saying "forgive and forget" may roll off the tongue, but it's as shallow as it is short. For one thing, it's downright impossible. For another, it misses the whole point of forgiveness. The things we most need to forgive in life are the things we can't forget. Rather than sweeping them under the carpet, we need to draw a line under them, deliberately choosing not to count them against the person who did them, and moving on.

That's why, sometimes, the initial act of forgiveness may seem relatively easy, but dealing with the emotions that follow every time you see that person, speak to them or just think about them can be harder to deal with. True forgiveness is not an act; it's a constant emotional confrontation.

And the longer you wait to forgive someone, the harder it becomes. Time really doesn't heal; it just gives the bitterness and resentment longer to eat away at you from inside. If you wait for the "right time", you may never do it.

寬恕

對于有些人來講，他們覺得寬恕別人似乎是不可能的，因為他們不知道怎樣去寬恕,。首先且最緊要的就是：你要明白寬恕他人并非易事,。事實上,，寬恕他人可能是我們當中大部分人不得不做的最艱難的一件事,。

我們是被傷害的那個人，卻不得不去寬恕,，這看起來好像完全不公平,。但是，這正是寬恕的核心所在,。它之所以看起來不公平,，是因為它本來就不公平。不然的話,，寬恕的價值何在？寬恕就是寬容那些原本不能諒解的事,。畢竟,，假如事情都能夠被諒解，那就不需要寬恕了,，不是嗎,？

一句“既往不咎”也許可以脫口而出,，但這句話的淺顯就像它的簡短,。一方面，很明顯這是完全做不到的；另一方面,，它漏掉了寬恕的關鍵部分。生活里,，我們最需要寬恕的是那些我們不能忘記的事,。與其掩蓋那些事實，我們不如把它們標記出來,，然后有意識的不將錯誤歸于做事的人,，之后繼續(xù)前行,。

這就是為何最初寬恕時好像相對容易,，可日后每次見到那些人,，與他們說話,，或是一想起他們，卻會更加難以控制自己的情緒,。真正的寬恕不是一種行動，而是一個持久的情感對抗的過程,。

等待的時間越久,，寬恕一個人便會越艱難。時間治愈不了傷口，它只會令你花更長久的時間去痛苦與怨恨,。然后任由這些不良情緒啃噬你的內心,。如果你總在等待寬恕的時機，那你就永遠都做不到寬恕,。