世上的愛(ài)都以聚合為目的,，唯獨(dú)父母對(duì)子女的愛(ài)以分離為目的。

著名詩(shī)人紀(jì)伯倫就曾寫過(guò)一篇《你的子女其實(shí)不是你的》,，字字懇切,，發(fā)人深省，每個(gè)父母都該仔細(xì)讀讀,！

紀(jì)伯倫 《你的兒女其實(shí)不是你的》

Your children are not your children.
你的子女,，其實(shí)不是你的子女。

They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
他們是生命對(duì)于自身渴望而誕生的孩子,。

And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.
他們陪伴你,，卻并不屬于你。

You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
你可以給予他們你的愛(ài),，卻不是你的想法,，

For they have their own thoughts.
因?yàn)樗麄冇凶约旱乃枷搿?/p>

You may house their bodies but not their souls,
你可以庇護(hù)的是他們的身體，卻不是他們的靈魂,，

For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
因?yàn)樗麄兊撵`魂屬于明天,，屬于你在夢(mèng)境中也無(wú)法達(dá)到的明天。

You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you,
你可以拼盡全力,，變得像他們一樣,，卻不要讓他們變得和你一樣，

For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
因?yàn)樯粫?huì)后退,，也不在過(guò)去停留,。

You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
你是弓，兒女是從你那里射出的箭,。

The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
弓箭手遙望未來(lái)之路上的箭靶,，

and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.
用盡力氣將你拉開(kāi)，使箭射得又快又遠(yuǎn),。

Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness,
懷著快樂(lè)的心情,，在弓箭手的手中彎曲吧，

For even as he loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.
因?yàn)樗麗?ài)一路飛翔的箭,，也愛(ài)無(wú)比穩(wěn)定的弓,。

我們陪著孩子長(zhǎng)大，卻無(wú)法陪著孩子變老,；

我們養(yǎng)育孩子的身體,，但也要尊重孩子的靈魂。

真正睿智的父母，往往更愿意成為孩子的守護(hù)神,，而不是掌控者,。

父母子女之間，其實(shí)就是一場(chǎng)不可避免,、漫長(zhǎng)的告別,。

所以，我們要學(xué)著灑脫地放手,，子女也要學(xué)著獨(dú)立的生活