If you were left millions in your parent's will, but your brother or sister were left nothing, would you give them some money?

如果父母的遺囑中給你留下了數(shù)百萬，而你的兄弟姐妹什么也沒留下,，你會(huì)給他們一些...

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Jeff Edwards, Novelist, researcher, and general trouble maker.
My sister isnot a Quora reader. In the unlikely event that one of you fine people happen toknow her, please keep this information quiet. (Thanks!)
ur mother died a few years ago, leavingher estate to me, my younger brother, and our older sister. While it didn’tamount to millions, between house, savings, retirement accounts, and some undevelopedproperty, there was a fairly hefty sum of money.
As the executor of Mom’s estate, mybrother had direct insight into the financials. When he had a feel for theassets and liabilities, he came up with a plan to deceive our beloved sisterabout the size of our shared inheritance. He approached me with his idea, and Ibecame an instant co-conspirator.
My brother and I both have solid careersand strong retirement plans. While our sister has always worked hard and hasbeen careful with her money, life has thrown her a few curve balls. For reasonscompletely beyond her control, she wasn’t very well set up for retirement. And- given that she’s nearly a decade older than me - we knew she couldn’t keepcharging that hard forever.
Hence my brother’s evil plan…
Instead of splitting the estate intothree equal shares, my brother and I each took a few thousand dollars and gavethe remaining 95% to our sister. We’ve kept up the fiction that the estate wasmuch larger than any of us suspected, and our sister still believes that shereceived an equal one-third share.
It wasn’t a fortune, but it was enoughto make her retirement possible and give her a comfortable cushion againstfuture emergencies. My only regret is that it wasn’t my idea.
Bcause our sister really is beloved.Our father died when we were children, and she pretty much raised the rest ofus. She’s one of the kindest, most supportive human beings you’re ever likelyto meet. She deserves a bit of rest and security after a lifetime of hard work.
Getting back to OP’s question, we didn’tinherit millions and no one was cut out of the estate. But we clearly didn’tfollow our mother’s intentions. I’m okay with that. And if Mom could see usnow, I think she’d be okay with it too.
Edit:
I never really expected this one to blowup like it has. Thanks for all the kind comments! Given the amount of attentionthis answer is attracting, I feel compelled to set the record straight about acouple of things:
#1 My brother and I are not saints.We’re not perfect selfless beings who think only of others. I like to believewe’re basically decent people, but we’re just as capable of pettiness andfoolishness as anyone else. This was simply a case in which we saw anopportunity to do something for someone we both love.
#2 I probably should have given astraight telling of the story, instead of setting it up as a twist. Myapologies for heightening the drama. I’m a writer of adventure fiction and thetemptation to mess with the expectations of my readers got the better of me.

我姐姐不是Quora的讀者,。萬一你們中的一個(gè)好人碰巧認(rèn)識(shí)她，請(qǐng)保守這個(gè)秘密,。(謝謝!)
我們的母親幾年前去世了,，把她的財(cái)產(chǎn)留給了我、弟弟和姐姐,。雖然算不上百萬,，但在房子、儲(chǔ)蓄,、退休賬戶和一些未開發(fā)的房地產(chǎn)之間,，有相當(dāng)可觀的一筆錢。作為母親財(cái)產(chǎn)的執(zhí)行人,，我弟弟對(duì)財(cái)務(wù)有直接的了解,。當(dāng)他對(duì)資產(chǎn)和負(fù)債有了感覺后，他想出了一個(gè)計(jì)劃,，在我們共同繼承的財(cái)產(chǎn)的大小上欺騙我們深愛的姐姐,。他向我提出了他的想法，我立刻就成了他的同謀,。



Gigi J Wolf
Was there a problem between her and your mother? Don’tanswer if that’s intrusive. Just curious. I loved what you guys did, though!

她和你媽媽之間有什么問題嗎?如果這冒犯了你,，不用回答,。
只是好奇。不過我喜歡你們做的事!

Jeff Edwards
Nope. Not at all. Mom just wanted to be fair by dividingthings equally. We were in a place where we could tip the balance toward oursister, so that’s what we did.

不,，一點(diǎn)也沒有,。媽媽只是想公平地把東西平分。我們處在一個(gè)可以把天平向妹妹傾斜的位置,，所以我們就這么做了,。



Habib Fanny
I try. :)

我盡力。

MelanieCelliers, SoftwareDeveloper
Funny you should ask….
I find myself in exactly this position. Well, not exactly. There isconsiderably less money at stake than that, but still similar.
Let me explain…
Dad specified in his will that everything should go to Mom. Hehad a clause to say that if Mom passed away before him, or within a month ofhim, everything should be divided up between all the children. The 7 childrenare my 3 sisters from my dad’s first marriage, my 3 brothers from my mom’sfirst marriage and myself, from their marriage.
The problem is, that Mom died 77 days after he did, and shedidn’t have a will.
So that means that the state decides where the money will go.According to the law, everything goes to Mom and since she died without a will,the state will only give a share to Mom’s biological children. Which completelyexcludes my sisters.
This is completely crazy, and I tried sending a letter to the‘officer of the court’ (I think that’s what he was), to motivate him to insteadshare the investment policies between 7 of us. I tried explaining to him thatDad’s intention was for the money to be shared evenly but he refused.
So now it looks like this is how it’s going to happen regardlessof what my parents intended.
I spoke to my brothers and we have agreed that when the money ispaid into our accounts, we will transfer the amounts to an account that I willcreate. Then from there I will divide it between the 7 of us.
The amount is very unlikely to be very much, but because thesewere my parents wishes, I think that everyone is very likely to do the rightthing.
Perhaps, if my parents had purposely excluded someone, it wouldbe less likely to end the same way but my parents would never havedone that to one of us. Even my one sister, who after a disagreement, didn’tsee my parents for the last 3 years. My parents still loved her and wouldn’thave dreamt of excluding her from the will.
So now, we wait for the state to do what it wants to do and Ihope that it doesn’t end up tearing my family apart.
I have faith in all of them,so I’m probably worried for nothing.

我發(fā)現(xiàn)自己正處于這種境地,。嗯,不完全是,。與此相比，涉及的資金要少得多,，但情況仍然類似。
父親在遺囑中明確規(guī)定一切都應(yīng)歸母親所有,。他有一條規(guī)定,，如果母親在他之前去世，或者在他去世后一個(gè)月內(nèi)去世,，所有的東西都應(yīng)該分給所有的孩子,。這7個(gè)孩子是我父親第一次婚姻的3個(gè)姐妹，我母親第一次婚姻的3個(gè)兄弟,，還有我自己,。
問題是，他去世77天后,，媽媽也去世了,，她沒有遺囑。這意味著國家決定資金的去向,。根據(jù)法律,，一切都?xì)w母親所有，因?yàn)樗龥]有遺囑就去世了,，國家只會(huì)給母親的親生孩子一份,。這完全排除了我的姐妹。


對(duì)我來說,，如果真的發(fā)生了這樣的事,，我會(huì)和一個(gè)兄弟姐妹分享，但另一個(gè)幾十年前就已經(jīng)拋棄了這個(gè)家庭,，用非常惡毒的語言,，尤其是對(duì)我。這個(gè)人從來沒有成功過,，總是在一些事情不是絕對(duì)完美的時(shí)候放棄,，而我的另一個(gè)兄弟姐妹和我從很小的時(shí)候就開始拼命工作,，從來沒有放棄過，無論是好是壞,。所以我可能會(huì)把微薄的錢寄到那個(gè)方向,，但我必須咬緊牙關(guān)才能做到。

David Gentile
We had a brother like that, always demanding, nevercontributing, basically let our youngest brother die in agony, now stealingeverything he can from our mother now that dad is dead. Disgusting pig. drunk,druggie.

我們有一個(gè)這樣的哥哥,，他總是對(duì)我們提出要求,，從不做出貢獻(xiàn)，基本上就是讓我們最小的弟弟痛苦地死去,，現(xiàn)在爸爸死了,，他從我們的母親那里偷走了一切。惡心的豬,癮君子,。

Kimberly Ann
Money should always be divided equally between yourchildren. To not do that is to be a horrible parent and to cause even moredivision. If a child is bad it’s on the parent, they raised that child.

錢應(yīng)該總是平均分配給你的孩子,。如果不這樣做，就會(huì)成為一個(gè)糟糕的家長,，導(dǎo)致更多的分歧,。如果一個(gè)孩子是壞的，那是父母的錯(cuò),，是他們養(yǎng)育了這個(gè)孩子,。

M. A.Steinberger
Feb 8 · 2 upvotes
I must disagree about the “always”. One family I know willleave more to their autistic son than to his siblings. They are all okay withthis, because although he does an impressive job being as independent aspossible, he will need more help as he ages than his siblings. I know this isan unusual situation, but there are cases where one will quitehonestly need more help, through no lack of personal effort.

我完全不同意“總是”這個(gè)說法。我認(rèn)識(shí)的一個(gè)家庭留給他們患有自閉癥的兒子的會(huì)比留給他的兄弟姐妹更多,。
他們對(duì)此都沒有意見,，因?yàn)楸M管他在盡可能獨(dú)立方面做得令人印象深刻，但隨著年齡的增長,，他將比他的兄弟姐妹們需要更多的幫助,。我知道這是一個(gè)不尋常的情況，但在有些情況下,，一個(gè)人確實(shí)需要更多的幫助,，即便努力過。



Michael Bird, lives in Planet Earth, Milky Way, The Universe. (1973-present)
I know of a situation where one child in a very wealthyfamily was specifically left $1 in their parents’ will because this child hadrepeatedly and maliciously stolen from the parents, emotionally (and a fewtimes physically) abused the parents, frequently lied to the parents aboutthings the other children had done (that they didn’t actually do), andgenerally just making themselves unwanted at any family gatherings. This son’swife, who was just as bad as he was, had also frequently claimed (bragged) thatsince he was the oldest child, he would be inheriting EVERYTHING when theparents died.
The mother, who was more willing to put up with this garbage,passed away first. After she did, the father had the will altered to only givethat son $1, with the added condition that if that son contested their $1inheritance, a sealed envelope would be opened and read to everyone gatheredfor the reading of the will. This sealed envelope contained a detailed accountof everything harmful that the son had done to his parents, to his siblings,how he had cheated on his wife (apparently she didn’t know), and how that timewhen he went to “summer camp” as a teenager, he had actually been in jail forarmed robbery. Nobody but the father knew what was in that sealed envelope. The$1 son decided to contest. Now all of the extended family knows…
So, in a case like that, Iwould not give them any of the inheritance. But fortunately I probably won’thave to because none of my siblings are anywhere near that awful.

我知道一件事,，一個(gè)生活在富裕家庭里的孩子只從其父母的遺囑里得到1美元（的遺產(chǎn)）,，因?yàn)檫@個(gè)孩子頻繁地惡意地偷父母東西，濫用父母情感,，經(jīng)常對(duì)父母撒謊說是其他孩子做的（事實(shí)上他們沒有做）,，并且頻繁讓自己在家庭聚會(huì)上不受歡迎。和這個(gè)兒子一樣壞的他的妻子也經(jīng)常吹噓說,，因?yàn)樗亲畲蟮暮⒆?，父母死后他將繼承一切。

母親,，這個(gè)更愿意忍受這種垃圾的人先去世了,。之后,，這位父親修改了遺囑，只給了兒子1美元,，附加條件是,，如果兒子對(duì)他們1美元的遺產(chǎn)提出異議，就會(huì)打開一個(gè)密封的信封,，給聚集在一起閱讀遺囑的所有人看,。

這個(gè)密封的信封里詳細(xì)記載了兒子對(duì)父母和兄弟姐妹所做的一切有害的事情。他欺騙了他的妻子(顯然她不知道),以及那一次,，當(dāng)他十幾歲去“夏令營”的時(shí)候,，他卻因?yàn)槌中祿尳俣魂P(guān)進(jìn)了監(jiān)獄。除了父親以外,，沒有人知道那個(gè)密封的信封里裝的是什么,。1美元的兒子決定爭辯。現(xiàn)在大家庭的人都知道……
在這種情況下,，我不會(huì)給他們?nèi)魏芜z產(chǎn),。但幸運(yùn)的是，我可能不必這么做,，因?yàn)槲业男值芙忝脗兌紱]有那么糟糕,。