情商(EQ)在近些年來已經(jīng)成為職場的熱門話題之一了，擁有高智商不再是用人單位錄取的唯一因素,，相比起來,，高抗壓力，懂得為他人著想,，有自我意識的人才更受青睞,。下面這篇文章，為你講述高情商人士所特有的品質(zhì),。

Emotional intelligence is the “something” in each of us that is a bit intangible. It affects how we manage behavior, navigate social complexities, and make personal decisions to achieve positive results.

情商是我們每個(gè)人內(nèi)在的某種無形的“東西”,。它影響著我們?nèi)绾慰刂谱约旱男袨椋幚砩缃魂P(guān)系,，以及為達(dá)到正面效果而做出的個(gè)人抉擇,。

You can always take a scientifically validated test, such as the one that comes with the Emotional Intelligence 2.0 book.

你的確可以進(jìn)行科學(xué)有效的情商測試，比如從Emotional Intelligence 2.0的書中可以得到結(jié)果,。

What follows are sure signs that you have a high EQ.

下面的這些跡象,，如果你都擁有了,，那么就證明你擁有了很高的情商。

1.You Have a Robust Emotional Vocabulary 擁有豐富的情感詞匯,。

All people experience emotions, but it is a select few who can accurately identify them as they occur.

每個(gè)人都會(huì)有情感,，但僅僅有很少一部分人能夠準(zhǔn)確地描述出來。

People with high EQs master their emotions because they understand them, and they use an extensive vocabulary of feelings to do so. While many people might describe themselves as simply feeling “bad,” emotionally intelligent people can pinpoint whether they feel “irritable,” “frustrated,” “downtrodden,” or “anxious.”

擁有高情商的人通常都能控制自己的情緒,，因?yàn)樗麄兝斫膺@些情緒,，并使用大量的情感詞匯來描述它們。當(dāng)一般人把感覺簡單地描述為“感覺不好”,，情商高的人能夠指出自己所感覺的是“煩躁的”,，“沮喪的”，“壓抑的”或“不安的”,。

2.You’re Curious about People 對人很感興趣,。

Emotionally intelligent people are curious about everyone around them.

情商高的人都對身邊的人很好奇。

This curiosity is the product of empathy, one of the most significant gateways to a high EQ. The more you care about other people and what they’re going through, the more curiosity you’re going to have about them.

這種好奇心源自于同理心,，一種達(dá)到高情商水平的重要表現(xiàn),。你越關(guān)心身邊的人以及他們的狀況，你對他們的好奇心就越強(qiáng),。

3.You Embrace Change 接受改變,。

Emotionally intelligent people are flexible and are constantly adapting.

情商高的人們通常都很靈活并能隨機(jī)應(yīng)變。

They look for change that is lurking just around the corner, and they form a plan of action should these changes occur.

他們尋找潛伏在周圍的改變跡象,，并能制定計(jì)劃以應(yīng)對情況的改變,。

4.You Know Your Strengths and Weaknesses 了解自己的優(yōu)缺點(diǎn)。

Emotionally intelligent people know what they’re good at and what they’re terrible at.

高情商的人清楚了解自己所擅長的和不擅長的,。

They also know who pushes their buttons and the environments (both situations and people) that enable them to succeed.

他們也知道哪些人驅(qū)使他們以及周遭環(huán)境（地利,，人和）讓他們獲得成功。

5.You’re a Good Judge of Character 善于識別性格特點(diǎn),。

Much of emotional intelligence comes down to social awareness; the ability to read other people, know what they’re about, and understand what they're going through.

大多數(shù)的情商因素都與社會(huì)意識有關(guān),，也就是能夠讀懂他人的心，了解他們的情況,，揣摩他們的心理狀況,。

Over time, this skill makes you an exceptional judge of character. People are no mystery to you. You know what they’re all about and understand their motivations, even those that lie hidden beneath the surface.

隨著時(shí)間的流逝，這項(xiàng)技能會(huì)讓你成為一名出類拔萃的性格裁判,。你能讀透人們的心思,。你理解他們的情況以及他們的動(dòng)機(jī)，甚至那些隱藏在謊言背后的真相,。

6.You Are Difficult to Offend 不易動(dòng)怒,。

Emotionally intelligent people are self-confident and open-minded, which creates a pretty thick skin.

情商高的人都很有自信和心胸廣闊，所以多多少少有點(diǎn)厚臉皮,。

You may even poke fun at yourself or let other people make jokes about you because you are able to mentally draw the line between humor and degradation.

甚至你會(huì)自嘲或讓別人取笑你,，因?yàn)槟隳軌蚝芮逦胤直嬗哪c諷刺的區(qū)別,。

7.You Know How to Say No (to Yourself and Others). 懂得拒絕（自己或他人）。

Emotional intelligence means knowing how to exert self-control.

情商高意味著知道如何自控,。

You delay gratification, and you avoid impulsive action. Emotionally intelligent people avoid phrases such as “I don’t think I can” or “I’m not certain.” Saying no to a new commitment honors your existing commitments and gives you the opportunity to successfully fulfill them.

你喜歡先苦后甜,，拒絕沖動(dòng)。情商高的人都會(huì)避免使用諸如“我不覺得我可以”或“我不確定”這樣的說法,。而是對新的承諾說“不”,，這樣其實(shí)能夠?yàn)槟憬⑿庞茫槟闾峁C(jī)會(huì)更成功地履行承諾,。

8.You Let Go of Mistake 放下錯(cuò)誤,。

Emotionally intelligent people distance themselves from their mistakes, but do so without forgetting them.

情商高的人盡可能遠(yuǎn)離錯(cuò)誤，但不會(huì)把它們遺忘,。

9.You Give and Expect Nothing in Return 付出且不求回報(bào),。

When someone gives you something spontaneously, without expecting anything in return, this leaves a powerful impression.

當(dāng)有人自愿給予你一點(diǎn)什么，并且不要求你的回報(bào),，這樣會(huì)給別人留下很深刻的印象,。

Emotionally intelligent people build strong relationships because they are constantly thinking about others.

情商高的人能夠與他人建立很好的人際關(guān)系，因?yàn)樗麄冸S時(shí)隨地都在為他人著想,。

10.You Don’t Hold Grudges 不記仇,。

The negative emotions that come with holding onto a grudge are actually a stress response.

記恨的負(fù)面情緒實(shí)際上是一種應(yīng)激反應(yīng)的表現(xiàn)。

Letting go of a grudge not only makes you feel better now but can also improve your health.

放下哀怨不僅讓你感覺良好還會(huì)有助健康,。

11.You Neutralize Toxic People 中和負(fù)面情緒的人群,。

Dealing with difficult people is frustrating and exhausting for most.

很多情況下與難相處的人打交道確實(shí)會(huì)讓自己身心疲憊。

High EQ individuals control their interactions with toxic people by keeping their feelings in check. When they need to confront a toxic person, they approach the situation rationally. They identify their own emotions and don’t allow anger or frustration to fuel the chaos.

情商高的人能夠控制自己不與負(fù)面情緒的人群接觸,。但當(dāng)他們與這些人接觸時(shí),，他們就會(huì)理性地應(yīng)對。他們能夠清楚自己的情緒并控制怒氣避免火上澆油,。

12.You Don’t Seek Perfection 舍棄對完美的追求。

Emotionally intelligent people won’t set perfection as their target because they know that it doesn’t exist.

高情商的人不會(huì)把完美作為自己的最終目標(biāo),，因?yàn)樗麄兒芮宄昝朗歉静豢赡艿摹?/p>

13.You Appreciate What You Have 珍惜目前所有,。

Taking time to contemplate what you’re grateful for isn’t merely the right thing to do; it also improves your mood because it reduces the stress hormone cortisol by 23%.花點(diǎn)時(shí)間來反思自己所感恩的事情不僅是件好事情，還能夠讓你的心情變好,，因?yàn)檫@能夠減少23%的壓力荷爾蒙,。

Research conducted at the University of California, Davis, found that people who worked daily to cultivate an attitude of gratitude experienced improved mood, energy, and physical well-being. It’s likely that lower levels of cortisol played a major role in this.

來自加州大學(xué)的學(xué)者Davis進(jìn)行了一項(xiàng)研究，發(fā)現(xiàn)每天能夠培養(yǎng)感恩態(tài)度的人心情會(huì)更好,，精力更充沛,，身體更強(qiáng)壯。這與低水平的皮質(zhì)醇所發(fā)揮的作用是相當(dāng)?shù)摹?/p>

14.You Disconnect適當(dāng)與外界斷聯(lián),。

Taking regular time off the grid is a sign of a high EQ because it helps you to keep your stress under control and to live in the moment.

找時(shí)間隔絕人群是高情商的表現(xiàn),，因?yàn)檫@能夠幫助你控制壓力并感受生活,。

When you make yourself available to your work 24/7, you expose yourself to a constant barrage of stressors. Forcing yourself offline and even—gulp!—turning off your phone gives your body and mind a break.

當(dāng)你每周每天都隨時(shí)待命，你就讓自己處于一個(gè)不斷受到壓力影響的環(huán)境,。迫使自己斷絕聯(lián)系,，甚至——啪！關(guān)上手機(jī),，給自己的身心一個(gè)休息的機(jī)會(huì),。

15.You Limit Your Caffeine Intake 控制咖啡因的攝取。

Drinking excessive amounts of caffeine ensures you stay this way as it takes its sweet time working its way out of your body.

攝取過量的咖啡因會(huì)長時(shí)效性讓你持續(xù)情緒高漲,，久久無法平靜,。

High-EQ individuals know that caffeine is trouble, and they don’t let it get the better of them.

高情商的人了解咖啡因是個(gè)潘多拉的寶盒，并不讓自己去接觸它,。

16.You Get Enough Sleep 保持充足的睡眠,。

It’s difficult to overstate the importance of sleep to increasing your emotional intelligence and managing your stress levels.

實(shí)際上很難通過言語去夸大睡眠對提高情商和控制壓力的重要性。

High-EQ individuals know that their self-control, attention, and memory are all reduced when they don’t get enough—or the right kind—of sleep. So, they make sleep a top priority.

高情商的人知道如果沒有足夠的睡眠,，自控力,，專注力和注意力都會(huì)降低。所以,，他們把睡眠當(dāng)作自己的首要事情,。

17.You Stop Negative Self-Talk in Its Tracks 停止自我否定。

The more you ruminate on negative thoughts, the more power you give them. Most of our negative thoughts are just that—thoughts, not facts.

你越反思負(fù)面的想法,，你就越來越消極,。大多數(shù)的負(fù)面想法都僅僅是想法而已，并不是事實(shí),。當(dāng)你感覺到某些事情總是發(fā)生或從不發(fā)生,，這僅僅是因?yàn)槟愕拇竽X主動(dòng)接受威脅的自然趨勢（夸大事情的頻率和嚴(yán)重程度）。

Emotionally intelligent people separate their thoughts from the facts in order to escape the cycle of negativity and move toward a positive, new outlook.

情商高的人能夠把想法和事實(shí)分離開來,，以此脫離負(fù)面的惡性循環(huán),，走向積極的，全新的觀點(diǎn),。

18.You Won’t Let Anyone Limit Your Joy 不讓他人影響自己的樂趣,。

When emotionally intelligent people feel good about something that they’ve done, they won’t let anyone’s opinions or snide remarks take that away from them.

高情商的人對自己所做的事情感覺良好，他們不會(huì)受別人的觀點(diǎn)或暗諷所影響,。

While it’s impossible to turn off your reactions to what others think of you, you don’t have to compare yourself to others, and you can always take people’s opinions with a grain of salt.

當(dāng)你無法脫離別人對你的看法時(shí),，你也不必與他們比較，就可以遠(yuǎn)離其他人的評頭論足了,。

That way, no matter what other people are thinking or doing, your self-worth comes from within.

因此,，無論別人說了什么或做了什么，你的自我價(jià)值都只來源于自己的內(nèi)心,。

文章內(nèi)容來源：可可英語