Psychologists have found ways to predict if a couple will go the distance. Learn from their research.

心理學(xué)家發(fā)現(xiàn)了預(yù)測情侶是否應(yīng)該結(jié)束愛情長跑,，進(jìn)入婚姻殿堂的幾種方法。一起來學(xué)習(xí)一下,。

You Will Need

你需要

An honest evaluation of your relationship

對你們的戀情進(jìn)行真誠的評估

Steps

步驟

Step 1 Take notice of how you treat each other. Happily married couples say five nice things to and about each other for every one negative exchange.

1.關(guān)注一下你們怎樣互相對待,?；橐鲂腋５姆驄D互相能夠說出對方五個(gè)比較好的地方,，一個(gè)比較不好的地方,。

Researchers have found that if a woman rolls her eyes when her fiance is talking, it's a huge red flag.

研究人員表示，如果未婚夫說話的時(shí)候女性眼睛到處轉(zhuǎn),，說明他們的戀情亮起了紅燈。

Step 2 Rate your sense of humor. If you find the same things funny and laugh a lot, that can keep you laughing into old age together.

2.評估幽默感,。如果你們發(fā)現(xiàn)同樣的事情讓你們感到有趣和大笑,，年老時(shí)你們?nèi)匀豢梢砸黄鹦Α?

Step 3 Check if you and your betrothed present a united front. If one of you says "I" more than "we" it could signal a lack of readiness to give up single life.

3.看一下你和你的另一半是否達(dá)成統(tǒng)一戰(zhàn)線。如果其中一方經(jīng)常說“我”,，而不是“我們”,，這說明你們還沒有做好結(jié)束單身生活的準(zhǔn)備。

The chance of a couple ending up in divorce court is greater if the man scores low in the "we" test.

如果男方在“我們”測試中得分較低,，這對夫婦離婚的可能性更大,。

Step 4 Consider your "how we met" story. Are your respective answers short or long? Romantic or ho-hum? Told with affection or not? Couples who are expansive when recounting their stories have a better chance of living happily ever after.

4.講述兩人如何遇到的故事。你們各自的答案長還是短,？浪漫還是無味,？講述的時(shí)候是否充滿感情？講述他們結(jié)識的故事時(shí)笑逐顏開眉飛色舞的夫婦通常都過得比較幸福,。

Step 5 Critique your fights. If either of you has a tendency to escalate conflicts, that's a bad sign. If the male partner responds to conflict by withdrawing from the argument, that's even worse.

5.評論你們的爭吵,。如果任何一方想要把沖突升級，這是糟糕的信號,。如果男方想從爭吵中退出,，情況更加糟糕。

Fighting itself is not linked to divorce; the key is to handle disagreements calmly and respectfully most of the time.

爭吵本身和離婚無關(guān),；關(guān)鍵是平靜而互相尊重地解決爭端,。

Step 6 Consider other factors that increase the risk of divorce, like getting married under the age of 25, lacking higher education, earning a low income, having different religions, and coming from a broken home. The fewer of those categories you fall into, the better your chance of marital harmony.

6.考慮可能導(dǎo)致離婚的其他因素，例如不足25歲就結(jié)婚,，學(xué)歷不高,，收入較低,，宗教信仰不同，來自單親家庭等等,。以上這些不利因素越少,，婚姻和諧的可能性越高。

Step 7 Know that you have the power to determine your future. Now that you've learned the behaviors and attitudes that can lead to divorce, you don't necessarily need to call the whole thing off; take steps to adjust them.

7.知道你們有決定自己未來的能力?，F(xiàn)在,，你已經(jīng)了解到可能會(huì)導(dǎo)致離婚的行為和態(tài)度，你不需要一次完全改變,，逐步去調(diào)整就可以了,。

In a 1946 poll, people said the ideal marrying age for a woman was 21; a 2006 survey pegged the ideal age at 25.

在1946年的民意測驗(yàn)中，人們表示,，女性理想的結(jié)婚年齡是21歲,；2006年的調(diào)查則把理想年齡修正為25歲。