You ultimately become what you repeatedly do. If your habits aren't helping you, they’re hurting you. Here are a few examples of the latter that will steal your happiness if you let them:
習(xí)慣造就最終的你。如果你的習(xí)慣不能幫到你,，那么只會(huì)造成傷害,。下面的這些習(xí)慣,，如果你任其發(fā)展，只會(huì)偷走你的幸福：
1. Focusing on everyone’s story except your own.
1.關(guān)注別人而不是自己的故事
Don’t be so satisfied with the success stories of others and how things have gone for them that you forget to write your own. Unfold your own tale and bring it to life. You have everything you need to become what you are capable of becoming. Incredible change happens when you decide to take control. This means consuming less and creating more. It means refusing to let others do your thinking, talking, and deciding for you. It means learning to respect and use your own ideas and instincts to write your passage.
別再滿足于了解別人的成功,，別把目光都聚集在別人的事情進(jìn)展上,，別忽視了自己的生活。展開(kāi)自己的故事,，讓其成真,。萬(wàn)事俱備，你已經(jīng)可以成為你能夠成為的那個(gè)人了,。學(xué)會(huì)控制自己,，你就會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)不可思議的變化。少消耗,，多創(chuàng)造,。別再讓別人左右你的思想、談吐和決定,。要學(xué)著去尊重自己的想法,，活出自己的精彩。
If you want your life story to soar to new heights, you've got to clear a path, reduce the time-sinks and burdens weighing you down, and pick up the things that give you wings. Keep your best wishes and your biggest goals close to your heart and dedicate time to them every day. If you truly care about what you do and you work diligently at it, there’s almost nothing you can’t accomplish.
如果想讓自己的人生軌跡達(dá)到新的高度,，你就需要掃清障礙,，減少浪費(fèi)的時(shí)間,，加重責(zé)任以及學(xué)習(xí)那些能夠給你添磚加瓦的本領(lǐng),。懷揣最初的夢(mèng)想和最大的目標(biāo),，每天付出努力去實(shí)現(xiàn)。如果你真的關(guān)心自己所做的,，朝著目標(biāo)前進(jìn),，那么就沒(méi)有到達(dá)不了的彼岸。
2. Waiting for the perfect moment.
2.等待最佳時(shí)機(jī)
Don’t buy into the myth of the perfect moment. Moments aren’t perfect; they’re what you make them. So many people wait around for the stars to align to do what they’re here to do. The perfect moment, the perfect opportunity, the perfect state of being, etc. Wake up! These states of perfection are myths. They do not exist.
別再迷信什么所謂的最佳時(shí)機(jī)啦,。時(shí)機(jī)沒(méi)有完美一說(shuō),，它們是由你來(lái)創(chuàng)造的,。很多人都在等一個(gè)時(shí)機(jī)去做自己想做的事情,。最佳的時(shí)機(jī),，最好的機(jī)會(huì)，最好的狀態(tài)，等等,。醒醒吧,，這些最佳都是虛的，根本不存在,。
Your ability to grow to your highest potential is directly related to your willingness to act in the face of imperfection. You will come to succeed not by finding a perfect moment, but by learning to see and use life’s imperfections perfectly.
提高潛力的能力與你在缺陷面前行動(dòng)力的表現(xiàn)息息相關(guān),。要想成功，你需要的不是去找一個(gè)最佳時(shí)機(jī),，而是學(xué)著看到和利用生活中的不完美,。
3. Working for nothing more than a paycheck.
3.只為了錢而工作
Work without interest is imprisonment. Even if you aren’t super-passionate about your work, you’ve got to at least be interested in it. When you design a lifestyle in which your work is something you suffer through daily strictly to pay your bills, you end up spending your entire life wishing you had someone else’s.
只為了錢而工作和坐牢也沒(méi)什么區(qū)別,。即使你不熱愛(ài)這份工作，但至少也需要有點(diǎn)興趣吧,。如果工作對(duì)你而言只是熬日子賺錢付賬單,，那你這輩子也就會(huì)了無(wú)生趣。
Think about it. This is your life; your work will fill a large percentage of it. It’s not all about the money; it’s about you. When the essence of who you are defines at least some slice of the work you do for a living, that work generates fulfillment. Interest in your work puts quality in your output and happiness in your mind. Don’t settle for a paycheck. Shuffle around until you find work that interests you.
想想看。這是你的生活，你的工作占了很大的一部分,，這不僅僅是錢的問(wèn)題,，是你自己的問(wèn)題。當(dāng)你至少能了解工作的一丁點(diǎn)意義時(shí),，這份工作就會(huì)給你帶來(lái)滿足感了。工作的興趣能有效反映在你的成果和幸福感中，別只為了錢工作,。找一個(gè)真正讓自己感興趣的活吧。
4. Harboring feelings of hate.
4.存有怨恨之心
As Martin Luther King Jr. so profoundly said, “Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.” Truth be told, when we harbor feelings of hate, it eventually gets the best of us. It takes control of us. We forget why we hate, what we hate, and whom we hate –we simply hate for the sake of hating. And then, naturally, we begin to hate ourselves too.
馬丁·路德·金曾經(jīng)說(shuō)過(guò)：“黑暗不能驅(qū)除黑暗,，只有光明可以做到；仇恨不能驅(qū)除仇恨,，只有愛(ài)可以做到”,。說(shuō)得真好。當(dāng)我們感到憤恨,，其實(shí)就已經(jīng)被怨恨利用了,，它控制著我們。我們忘記了為什么怨恨,，怨恨什么,，甚至到底怨恨誰(shuí)——我們只是為了恨而恨。最終我們會(huì)開(kāi)始恨自己,。
Everything and everyone you hate rents permanent space in both your head and heart. So if you want to eliminate something or someone from your mind, don’t hate. Instead, disconnect yourself, move on, and don’t look back.
每個(gè)你恨的事情和人都會(huì)在你的心中和腦海里占有一席之地,，所以如果想忘記這件事或這個(gè)人，放下仇恨吧,。放過(guò)自己,，朝前走，別再回頭看,。
5. Holding tight to worries and fears.
5. 被擔(dān)心和恐懼包圍
Someday when you look back over your life you’ll realize that nearly all of your worries and anxious fears never came to fruition –they were completely unfounded. So why not wake up and realize this right now. When you look back over the last few years, how many opportunities for joy did you destroy with needless worry and negativity? Although there’s nothing you can do about these lost joys, there’s plenty you can do about the ones that are still to come.
有天當(dāng)你回頭看,，你會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)以前所有的擔(dān)心和焦慮似乎都沒(méi)有發(fā)生過(guò)——它們根本就不會(huì)發(fā)生。所以現(xiàn)在就該醒醒,，意識(shí)到這點(diǎn)啦,。回想最近的這些年,，擔(dān)心和消極會(huì)害你錯(cuò)過(guò)了多少快樂(lè)的機(jī)會(huì),？雖然對(duì)那些已經(jīng)錯(cuò)過(guò)的快樂(lè)你無(wú)能為力，但是面對(duì)未來(lái)，你還有無(wú)限機(jī)會(huì),。
You will find that it’s necessary to let some things go simply for the reason that they’re heavy on your heart and soul. Let go of them. Don’t clamp shackles to your own ankles. It’s incredibly easy to enjoy more of your life right now, no matter what the situation. It’s just a matter of letting go of the layers of nonsense that are weighing you down. When you start peeling them off and simply appreciating everything for what it is, life can be wonderfully fulfilling.
把那些壓在你心頭和腦海中的事情都放下吧,，這真的十分必要。放手吧,。別再給自己的臉上添皺紋了,。好好的享受現(xiàn)在的生活，無(wú)論處境如何,，把那些沒(méi)有意義的事情都丟一邊好了,，輕裝上陣吧。當(dāng)你學(xué)著放下這些,，欣賞身邊的所有事情,，生活又會(huì)變得多姿多彩了。
6. Dwelling on difficulties.
6. 老是糾結(jié)于困難
Times of adversity will inevitably affect the conditions in which you live and work; yet you don’t have to let it affect who you are and where you’re headed. Take note of the setbacks and adjust to them, but don’t expand on them by making them a bigger part of your life.
困境的確會(huì)影響你的生活和工作,，但別讓它影響到你這個(gè)人和你的目標(biāo),。記下這些挫敗，調(diào)整一下,，而不是任由其發(fā)展,，讓它們成為生活中的一大部分。
Every day brings new lessons and new possibilities. There is always a way to take the next step forward on the path you've chosen. Events may be terrible and inescapable at times, but you always have choice.
每天都會(huì)帶來(lái)新的內(nèi)容和可能性,。自己選擇的路,，邁出下一步之前都還有余地。事情也許會(huì)變得恐怖或無(wú)法逃避,，但你一直都有選擇權(quán),。
7. Constantly seeking fleeting contentment.
7. 尋求短暫的滿足感
There are two variations of contentment in life –fleeting and enduring. The fleeting type is derived from instants of material comfort, while the enduring type is attained through the gradual growth of your mind. At a glimpse it might be difficult to decipher one from the other, but as time rolls on it becomes vividly obvious that the latter is far superior.
人生有兩種滿足感——短暫的和長(zhǎng)久的。物質(zhì)上的滿足帶來(lái)短暫的滿足感,，而長(zhǎng)久的滿足感則是來(lái)源于精神上的成長(zhǎng),。也許一時(shí)之間很難在兩者之間做出抉擇，但隨著時(shí)間的流逝你就會(huì)明白后者才更值得爭(zhēng)取,。
Enduring contentment sustains itself through life’s ups and downs, because through them your mind remains confident and at peace.
人生起起落落,，持久的滿足會(huì)一直陪伴著你，因?yàn)闊o(wú)論發(fā)生什么,，你都會(huì)一如既往的保持自信和平和,。
8. Trying to make a big difference all at once.
8. 期待一鳴驚人
If you want to make a difference in the world, start with the world around you. Making a big difference all at once is usually impossible, and the process of trying is extremely stressful. However, instantly making a difference in a few lives is entirely possible and usually fairly easy. You just have to focus on one person at a time and start with the one closest to you.
如果你想影響世界，先從自己身邊的世界做起吧,。想要一鳴驚人真的不大么可能,，過(guò)程也會(huì)異常艱辛。然而,，在生活中做些小改變絕對(duì)可行還相對(duì)簡(jiǎn)單哦,。你只要一次關(guān)注一個(gè)人,，就從關(guān)系最近的那個(gè)開(kāi)始吧。
Work to make a bunch of small splashes, and let the ripples spread naturally. If you want to change a person’s mind or mood, sometimes you have to change the minds or moods of the people around them first. For instance, if you make one person smile, their smile just might make others smile too. In this subtle way, you can touch the masses with your thoughtfulness without stressing yourself out.
從小事做起,，讓影響慢慢如漣漪般散開(kāi),。如果你想改變一個(gè)人的想法或者心情，有時(shí)候你要做的是先改變他周圍的人,。比如,，你想要讓一個(gè)人笑，就得先讓其他人也笑起來(lái),。用這種方法,，你既可以慢慢完成自己的想法，還不會(huì)倍感壓力,。
9. Holding on to someone who hurts you.
9. 放不開(kāi)傷害過(guò)你的人
Sometimes you have to walk away from people, not because you don’t care, but because they don’t. When someone hurts you time and time again, accept the fact that they don’t care about you. It’s a tough pill to swallow, but it’s necessary medicine. Do NOT strive to impress them any further. Waste not another second of your time trying to prove something to them. Nothing needs to be proven. Do not act with any thought of them ever again.
有時(shí)候你要離開(kāi)一些人,，不是因?yàn)槟悴辉谝馑麄儯撬麄儾辉谝饽?。如果有人一次又一次的傷害你,，那么你該醒醒了，他們根本就不在意你,。良藥苦口,。別再試圖改善在他們眼中的印象，別再浪費(fèi)時(shí)間向他們證明什么,，你不需要證明任何東西，別再為他們做任何事,。
10. Over-amplifying the importance of physical attractiveness.
10.過(guò)度夸大外表的重要性
Infatuating yourself with someone simply for what they look like on the outside is like choosing your favorite food based on color instead of taste. It makes no sense. It’s innate, invisible, unquantifiable characteristics that create lasting attraction.
靠外表來(lái)選對(duì)象,，從某種程度而言就是通過(guò)顏色而非味道來(lái)選擇食物。毫無(wú)意義,，看不見(jiàn)的且無(wú)法計(jì)算的內(nèi)在品質(zhì)才是真正持久的魅力,。
